Do you feel like you're addicted to food, have binge eating disorder and a food obsession disorder? If so, how do you recover and overcome food addiction?
Have you wondered to yourself:
» why can’t I stop eating and always thinking about food?
» why do I have out of control uncontrollable extreme hunger and overeat and never feel satisfied?
» why am I having this compulsive hunger?
» am I addicted to food and do I have binge eating disorder?
» how to recover from a compulsive eating disorder and stop overeating?
» what is binge eating caused by and how to stop binge eating for life?
» I just binged and I hate myself, should I purge?
» how to overcome gluttony?
...then you're in the right place!
In this video I talk about:
People often are in this fight with food and at war with their body, thinking that they need to control food, that they need to fight their cravings and their hunger and their bodies wishes, to get to where they want to be with their body.
But really, it's possible to reach your optimal weight that's healthiest for you without restricting, dieting or overtraining of any kind, and to be able to eat the foods that you love, free of guilt.
In my journey, my story over almost a decade of being in the restrict-binge-overexercise cycle, I struggled with my body and food, and I tried to fight it for so long.
Typically, it was either to maintain or lose my weight or my body leanness or body fat percentage or muscle gain, and to "be healthy..."
...and I would have that feeling that I could stay on track...
...but then the overwhelming thoughts around food would lead me to falling off the bandwagon, and find myself consuming the whole pantry.
So, I remember wondering what was wrong with me, why couldn't I maintain my willpower anymore?
Maintaining my willpower and fighting my body was getting harder and harder as I continued.
I thought that there was something wrong with me.
I thought I was weak.
I thought I was a glutton.
I thought that I didn't have any correlation between my restrictive and compulsive behaviors.
I had this unhealthy relationship with food, and my body, that was actually creating the whole dysfunctional mess.
I remember seeing people around me, and it seemed like they could just do it easily. I remember thinking like, "Why can they do it, and I can't? What's going on here?"
I was seeing so many people eating my favorite foods, but let me preface and say that, this "easy balance picture" that is painted or portrayed on social media is not always the case, and what's going on behind the scenes.
But there were those people who did have it together and they didn't have to put too much thought, control or effort into it.
They always preached balance, and I could never fathom this concept, because I thought that balance and moderation was just a cop out, and it was a justification for their unhealthy and lazy habits.
So, remember this concept: humans are not what they do today, but they are what they have been doing the day before and the day before that, and the day before that, and the day before that, consistently.
So, we can wire ourselves to binge or feel out of control with food, or we could wire ourselves to be balanced, through how we are eating and in it for the long term sustainability, without food controlling our lives.
👉 So, are you one who's thinking about food a lot?
I mean, like 50-100 % of the time, and it's not just even the act of eating, but it's also the obsessive mindset about:
To where, a good amount of your time is what consumes your thoughts.
So there's this consuming element that dominates your relationship with food. Right?
👉 Another sign is that you can eat and eat without feeling full.
So, when your body is in this survival starvation mode after a period of dieting or restrictive eating, often the satiety hormone (leptin) goes down, so you're able to eat and eat and eat without ever feeling full.
And this is your body's way of being able to get in as much energy as it needs, without you feeling full.
This is how you're able to consume this much food and also how when you heal through a diet recovery process, you're able to feel your satiety again more so over time, because your body starts to raise the leptin again.
The more that your body comes out of the survival starvation mode, and the more it doesn't need that much food anymore during the day because it doesn't feel like it's being starved anymore, because you're consistently feeding it.
👉 Another sign is the feeling that you're almost on autopilot when you eat.
So when you go to eat, it's almost as if something takes over you, that's not 'you,' as you're eating.
👉 Another sign is the planning, the plotting, the tracking, the measuring, the going back and forth between, should I do this? Should I not do that? Should I do this?
One side of you has all of these goals and aspirations and cares for your family and friends, and the other side has this compulsion and hyper-focus desire to just eat.
If you're experiencing any of these, then it means that you probably have been wiring yourself unknowingly on accident, perhaps to binge, to think about food obsessively, to eat on autopilot BECAUSE of the restrictive eating and the diets, as an act to gain control or to lose the weight or to maintain the weight.
The restrictions cause and perpetuate your brain to feel addicted to those foods that have been restricted.
The restrictions cause the desire to binge eat on the foods that have been restricted.
The restrictions program your body and brain to be hyper focused on food.
The good news: you CAN reprogram your brain for freedom, and this is through:
✦ rehabilitating your metabolism in a diet recovery process,
✦ and through healing your mind and relationship towards food, that food is not the enemy, that your body and your hunger doesn't have to be controlled or suppressed, that you aren't addicted, or you are the problem or have a problem.
You're not the problem...
This is all just the result of restricting yourself in some way, in any shape or form around food.
I personally, at one point thought I was just addicted to food.
That was my rationalization for my actions and my compulsion to eat, and my thought around food.
Unfortunately, Overeaters Anonymous preaches that if you have this compulsion around food, that you have to practice abstinence, by avoiding the food you're supposedly "addicted to" by cutting the sugar, cutting flour, cutting bread, cutting gluten...
...and I just don't believe that after being free now from food obsession for years, without abstaining from these foods.
I also don't believe that you have to be in this pattern and self-sabotage with food for the rest of your life.
And then you're labeled with this "disorder" that you'll just have forever and that you have to try to control because it's never going away.
"Hi, I'm Kayla and I'm a food addict."
NO THANK YOU! My brain truly no longer feels hyper-focused with food, I haven't had a desire to binge eat for YEARS, nor do I feel addicted, obsessed with food and hungry all the time anymore - I once did, and now I don't, I'm FREE.
And this is possible for you TOO.
No, I wasn't a food addict, you're not a food addict, I don't believe in food addiction, not even to the hyper-palatable foods of our world.
You may have a sweet tooth like sugar more than someone else, but that doesn't mean you're addicted to sugar.
People have different preferences and desires.
When someone has sugar and they feel like they can't stop, it's not because they're addicted to sugar, it's typically because they're so, so, so restricted of sugar that when they finally get it, your body wants to make up for the deficit and make sure it get's enough before it's restricted of the sugar again.
The restriction of sugar is what programs you to want to eat more in an attempt to replenish the deprivation.
So, this means that you don't have to cut it out because you're not a sugar addict.
Abstinence is not the answer, you can't abstain from food.
So we have to come up with a solution that's balanced for us, that means including your favorite foods, nothing's off limits, and you can get to a point where you can have some of what you want and not have to eat the entire box.
You just eat to satisfy your craving.
And then you can move on with your day and your life.
Even if this seems impossible, it is possible.
I've been there, and I thought that it was never going to be possible for me, because I was in it for almost a decade, feeling this compulsion and that food controlled my life.
But low and behold, once I let go and developed a healthy relationship with eating, and my body, it all started to balance out on its own.
This has to come before the weight can gradually come off.
So the back part of your brain, your survival area of the brain is very irrational, very automatic.
It doesn't care about your family and friends, it only cares about survival.
So, it becomes hyper focused on food when it is restricted, there's no reasoning with it.
You can't reason with this brain not to eat when for that matter, eventually it will take over and it will win and it will eat, and it will continue to fight until it's fed to satisfaction.
The reasoning, the plotting, the planning, the rules, the journaling, the calling a friend, the going on a walk...
...the reason this stuff doesn't work is because you're not speaking to this primal portion of your brain, and it's driving you to just eat the food.
So there's another part of your brain in the forefront where your goals and your dreams, it's you, it's your personality, it's your self-control center.
This part gets suppressed while you're in starvation mode, while the primal part of your brain actually gets any fuel that does come in.
So, this happens from restricting yourself in any way, shape or form... aka just eating enough is not enough...
If you're mentally judging, criticizing, guilting, and shaming yourself and saying:
The mental, physical AND emotional restriction, it all comes into play.
It all can trigger your brain into starvation mode and survival mode. (and yes, survival mode IS a real phenomena)
Realize that you're not broken no matter how compulsive, obsessive or crazy you feel around food, and you're not going to be stuck with some disorder forever that you have no control over.
You just have to deal with getting your brain out of this starvation, survival mode through a metabolism recovery process (which you can get a step by step guide on how to do this in my Find Your Balance program).
So don't feel bad for binging.
Understand that, the compulsive eating is from a natural instinct to survive from restriction and not that you're broken.
Remember, there's nothing wrong with you for having this extreme intense hunger, whether mental or physical hunger...
...you just need to eat the food, and you need to often gain some healthy weight while the metabolism heals.
And this will bring your brain and body out of starvation mode.
And then and only then, can your body start to slowly release the weight overshoot and reblance.
Because often we find that we gain all the weight back that we had before going on the restrictive diet or clean eating regime or excessive exercise regime, and we gain back even more than we had.
But this is part of the survival mechanism and it takes a long time of sitting within this and reframing our brain, reprogramming our mindsets, rewriting the neural pathways.
And then and only then, when you can rewire all this and challenge all of this, and sit within it, can your body then feel safe, and can your body feel nourished and fed and come out of starvation mode.
And the body will know that it doesn't have to conserve anymore, and it will slowly start to release any overshoot weight.
So the next time that you go to eat, that next time that you have that compulsion to eat, remember all this. Okay?
I hope this helps 😊 ❤️
Let me know if you have any more questions. I answer a lot of these questions within my private group coaching course.
So head over there, I'm more active over there.
I try to do the blogs and YouTube whenever I can. I know not everyone is in the right state to be in that coaching course, so I try to be on here, but if you want more support and step-by-step guidance from me, from everything that I've learned, more stuff like this, enroll in my Find Your Balance program, and you'll get lifetime access to the core curriculum and all my future additions and the Q&A sessions.
If I don't see you over there, then I will see you in the next post!
To your freedom,
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